Anxious attachment style dating
People with avoidant attachment styles tend to think being in a relationship will "tie them down" while they pursue their goals.Even though each of these three attachment styles exist for a reason, they can still negatively affect your happiness if you're not able to identify them.
You may be aware that uncertainty and emotional unavailability in your relationship generally lead to a miserable existence.
In fact, in every relationship, there should be at least one person with a secure attachment style.
If you have an anxious attachment style, stop thinking you shouldn't be needy. The key is to find someone with a secure attachment style because the secure person will be able to handle you being needy. Researchers actually found the happiest relationships were those in which both people were secure.
We have been given tons of romance advice that tells us how we should act in relationships: Don't be too needy, don't get too jealous and have a strong sense of independence.
But none of this advice is "good advice." You can listen to these people and always try to not feel jealous, not be annoyed at little details and not be too needy. The explanation behind why we behave this way lies in “attachment theory.” Attachment theory is based on the idea that we've been programmed by evolution to single out certain individuals in our lives and make them precious to us.
About 56 percent of people in the world are secure. Twenty-three percent are avoidant, and the remaining 1 percent are a rare combination of anxious and avoidant.