Christian friends before dating
Finally, care must be taken to avoid the pitfall of believing one’s personal preference—dating or courting—is the “only way” and looking down upon those who make the opposite choice.As in all things, the unity of the body of Christ should be of utmost importance in our minds, regardless of personal choices others make pertaining to issues on which the Bible is silent.When Becky was invited to lunch by a man she met at a bookstore, she was excited.
While many courtship advocates see it as the only choice for finding a mate, others find it oppressive and overly controlling.Scripturally speaking, the result of the process—godly Christian men and women marrying and raising families to the glory of God—is far more important than the method they use to achieve that result."Therefore, whether you eat or drink, or whatever you do, do all to the glory of God" (1 Corinthians , NKJV).Perhaps you share their concerns, as you're also wondering how you can reenter the dating world after divorce — and do so according to God's standards. Divorce is the death of the dreams you had when you committed yourself "for better or for worse." As a Christian, you can't simply separate from your spouse one day and hit the dating field the next.
And as with any loss, big or small, time is needed to grieve and to reassess who you are, where you've been and where God wants you to go.Courtship advocates claim that courtship allows for the two people to truly get to know each other in a more platonic setting without the pressures of physical intimacy or emotions clouding their view. For daters, spending time alone with a member of the opposite sex whom we find attractive can present temptations that can be very hard to resist.