Dating a girl from work
08-Nov-2020 21:52
Your level of investment must either match or be lower than hers, so adapt to her texting style and respond in tune with her. To avoid slipping into the friend zone at all costs, avoid idle chit chat like the plague.
Tease her, play with her, include her on inside jokes so the feelings of fun and attraction she felt for you when you first met are not only maintained but amped up, so your texts light up her eyes rather than dull her day with the burden of having to text you back.
Also, this way, when you’re fresh in her mind, she’ll remember you right away next time your number pops up!
She’ll also feel more comfortable about your text interaction with her because you already started texting her when you were with her. (your name).” Not typing her name in the first text can make her think you’ve forgotten it.
Don’t ever send revealing photos unless she has specifically asked for them or if you’re sexting, because just sending them out of the blue will appear needy and will be totally inappropriate.
It also demonstrates you are a low value male because a high value male would never dish out revealing photos of his body without them being earned first.
You may think you’re complimenting her but she’ll just think you call all girls “beautiful” or “gorgeous”.
Everything leading up to the meet up should demonstrate value, build her comfort levels and excitement about meeting you.
Ok, so you’ve been down the gym, had a damn good workout and think she’d appreciate a ripped photo of you with your shirt off. If you haven’t built up enough attraction yet, topless photos will scare her off.
Even if the impact you made on her was badass, it’s important you show her you’re not just a one trick pony and keep the fun alive.
So no meaningless texts like “how are you doing”, “what’s up” and “hi”, which will contribute nothing of value to her image of you. Trying to arrange a date before you’ve made a girl excited to see you again is a fatal mistake countless guys make over and over again.
If you gave her a nickname when you met her then that’s fine, but only use nicknames if it’s already an insider joke between the two of you, otherwise it’ll appear like you’ve totally forgotten her. Some guys will lose their mind staring at their phone waiting for her to reply, and when she does they’ll rush to pick it up and reply with something daft and incoherent.