But, over time, this behavior begins to feel strange and uncomfortable.
What’s worse, it also becomes normative, since psychopaths enjoy controlling you.
If you're not able to view a relationship as serving both of these two functions, when problems arise, you’ll think: But if you each understand how a relationship serves this double function, then when challenges arise you’ll understand that sometimes you have to leave the den of pleasure to head into that laboratory for growth, and that’s A-OK! We should always be open to stretching and growing into our best selves!
Your relationship will always suffer if either you or your partner displays poor character during conflicts, disappointments, stress, crisis, temptation, sadness, monetary challenges, illness, misunderstandings etc. When you read their comments, however, you see that while superficially that may be true, fundamentally it is false.