Good first online dating greeting
Saying “hey” in a first message is equivalent to saying nothing — this greeting has an 84% chance of being completely ignored, according to a 2015 Ok Cupid data report.And at Ok Cupid, we want to help you date like you give a damn, because you really should.I know this has been discussed on the ok cupid thread but that thread is vast and a summary on this specific question would be useful. A quick cold-read of their ethnic background works decently for me at getting replies. Recently I've been accusing them of looking like trouble. Wit plays well regardless, but fine-tuning your messages improve your response rate.When you are sending out a first message on an online dating site, what are proven, tried and tested first messages? I don't think there's going to be any one magic universal opener that will blow the doors off any and every girl. Many examples of guys putting lines up on here and within days being called out for it because every third message she receives is your own opener.. Within those categories, I've observed some patterns for success.I will say this though, if it's a dating site that has in its messaging service a subject line, I like to put a cliff hanger in there as a way of practically guaranteeing she reads my message. One that ALWAYS ensured a reply back was "I hope you aren't racist". I guess they always replied so that they could validate themselves somewhat so that they don't feel guilty or racist if they didn't reply. I go back and forth on whether asking a question or making a statement is a better opener. Maybe there's a way to get the to respond to a first message, but I think they have a lot of anxiety about in general.So rather than type "hey Anna" or something generic like that I might type, "I noticed that..." And then continue the statement in the body of your message. I just try to get their attention in the first message instead of writing a long winded specific message about something in their profile. Tailoring messages to each girl's profile is the way to go.“Hey.” A fine way to greet a real life friend, a cold (yet sufficient) salutation for a politically conservative family member, or something to shout at a cab that’s driven through a wet garbage puddle, soaking your pants.
I actually read their profile and respond to something I find interesting about it.So we looked into what makes a great message using two tools: math and good ol’ common sense.