Parents innfluence on dating
“It’s more up in the air than it’s ever been for me,” she says.In deciding who they want to date, most college students say they do not think about marriage or children.
Now that she’s in a serious relationship with a practicing Catholic, however, her children’s faith is no longer quite so certain.But the choice to date someone may have unexpected implications—especially if that person does not share your religion, Summer says. Bhaskarabhatla ’09, who is Hindu, says he thinks “a relationship shouldn’t focus on a person’s religious tradition and background but mainly on personal characteristics and compatibility.” His parents would not agree.Faced with these complexities, many students say they will not date members of other religions, and those who say they are willing to do so admit it isn’t always easy. Interfaith dating forces many students to make a difficult choice: conceal their relationship from their parents, or face fighting with them about it, Bhaskarabhatla says.“[Dating someone of a different faith] means you’re making them first before God,” he adds.
But Gillis says he realizes that, theology aside, the reality of interfaith dating is more complicated.“It’s all in the heart and the intentions,” he says. Skoda ’07, who is also Christian, disagrees that an interfaith relationship might strain a person’s relationship with God.That can be an irreconcilable problem at times,” she said after a forum on interfaith dating last month.